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What’s your first reaction when you notice a flaw in someone else? Many of us think, “I should fix this”—especially when it’s someone we care about or work with.

The reality? We can’t fix others. We can’t read their minds or rewrite their stories. And sometimes, even when we believe we see in them something we once struggled with ourselves, our attempts to correct them end up backfiring.

I’ve rehearsed that perfect speech in my head many times—designed to humble, enlighten, or change someone. Things always play out beautifully in my imagination. Reality rarely matches.


The Illusion of Control

This urge to "fix" often comes from a kind place—we want to help. We want things to be how we believe they should be. But that mindset leads to the idea that others can fix us too, and often we end up waiting for someone else to save us.

I heard a lyric the other day: "Who can finally fix me?" And I thought: Aren’t I the one who should fix me?

Depending on others to change us puts our healing outside ourselves.


Conversation, Not Correction

When someone we care about is struggling: the approach is simple—conversation, not confrontation.

No assumptions. No rehearsed speeches. No passive-aggressive hints. Just an honest, calm, non-judgmental talk.

If that doesn’t work? If conflict still arises? Then it may be time to let go—and focus on your own growth instead of controlling theirs.


Leading by Example

Real influence comes through action—not advice. People don’t want to be told what to do; they watch what you do.

If you’re deeply reactive to someone's behavior, pause and ask: What’s this unveiling in me? Often our strongest reactions reveal unresolved things within our own selves.

So instead of trying to “fix” others, cultivate your own growth. Be the change you wish to see—because it changes you.


Need Help Doing the Inner Work?

If you're on a path of personal growth or recovery, New Visions Recovery Solutions offers self-awareness tools, communication resources, and empowerment strategies. Fixing others isn’t your obligation. But learning to fix yourself—that's where the power lies.


Local Activities to Stay Busy & Focused: Colorado Springs

Distraction and positive engagement are powerful tools for emotional balance:

  • Try trails like Pikes Peak Greenway, a 16‑mile multi-use path great for walking, biking, or skating to clear your head. Wikipedia

  • Explore Memorial Park, featuring lakes, sports fields, jogging trails, skating, fishing, and community events like balloon festivals or fitness challenges. Wikipedia

  • Or join local classes and programs offered through Colorado Springs Recreation & Cultural Services, with options in sports, workshops, community centers, and fitness. woodlandpark.gov+11coloradosprings.gov+11coloradosprings.gov+11


Woodland Park: Outdoor Distraction & Creative Outlets

Just outside the city, Woodland Park offers peaceful settings and community creativity:


Summary: Take One Step Today

  • Start with one trail walk or bike on Greenway.

  • Join one art, activity, or outdoor class.

  • Attend one local community event.

  • Make one honest phone call.

These are not drastic changes—they’re one small step toward shifting your routine, mindset, and energy. Small moves lead to real momentum.


“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”— Mahatma Gandhi

 
 
 

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